Jesus came to set you free from loneliness. You no longer need to feel unloved, misunderstood, alone, or without close fellowship. Jesus came to restore the most important relationship in your life—your relationship with God—and to enable you to have close, meaningful relationships with others
Differentiate
between loneliness and solitude. Loneliness is when you are unhappy to be alone. Solitude is when
you are happy to be alone. You're not in solitude when you want to be with
people. There are people out there who you can relate to and become close with.
1.
Cultivate a strong relationship with God
At some points in our lives, we all feel alone, misunderstood, and
vulnerable. During those times, we need someone to be with us, understand our
heart, and give us encouragement and strength. The Bible says that God does all
these things for us—He is always with us, knows us better than we know our
selves, and encourages and strengthens us. He is our best companion. King David
had a very good friend in Jonathan, who supported and encouraged David during
the most difficult time in David’s life. When Jonathan was killed in a battle with
the Philistines, David must have felt very lonely. However, David had a close relationship
with God and was able to draw strength from that relationship. When you read
through the Psalms that David wrote, they all talk about David’s close
relationship with God. They are an excellent example of the type of
relationship we should have with
2.
Control your thoughts and attitudes
When we feel alone and isolated from others, we are an easy target
for the devil. Satan will come to us when we are vulnerable and try to drag us
down with all kinds of lies and destructive thoughts. In John 8:44, Jesus
said that when the devil lies, he speaks his native language. We should learn
to recognize and refuse to listen to the lies of the devil. Satan wants us to
feel lonely and miserable. He will tell us that no one understands or cares
about us, or encourage us to think negatively about other people. Satan’s goal
is to keep us from connecting with others and receiving godly encouragement.
3.
Challenge yourself in meeting other people’s needs
Ask any fisherman, and he’ll tell you that you need the right bait
to catch fish. In the same way, if we are caring and sincere people, then we
will naturally attract caring and sincere friends. The great news is that as we
mature as Christians, we learn to be more like Jesus —the most caring and
sincere friend ever. Don't wait for people to approach you.
Philippians 2:3-7 Do nothing out of selfish ambition
or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than you. Each of
you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of
others. Your attitude should be the same as that of Christ Jesus: Who, being in
very nature God, did not consider equality with God something to be grasped, but
made himself nothing, taking the very nature of a servant, being made in human
likeness.
If you want to develop close, meaningful relationships with
others, we need to be more like Jesus. We need to think of others’ interests,
not only our own. Ask God to give you a genuine concern for others, and wisdom
to know how to demonstrate that concern.
4.
Devote yourself to church fellowship
Loneliness is something that should be rare in God’s church. Acts
2:42 says believers in the early church devoted themselves to fellowship.
Today, things should be no different. The church is still Christians’ spiritual
family, and we are all to regard each other as brothers and sisters in Christ.
The church is not just a place where people with similar interests or
backgrounds gather—it is the family of God, made up of diverse people who
love Jesus. Believe it or not, but you have more shared interests with people
in the church than with anyone else outside the church.
Even if you feel there is no one in church who can be your friend,
I urge you to devote yourself to the church fellowship because that is where
your spiritual family is. In the end, if we believe the words of Jesus, we
ought to stand with our brothers and sisters in the church until the end. In
old times, travelers built fires when lying down at night. Lions would prowl around
in the dark outside the camp, waiting for someone to come out.
1 Peter 5:8 The devil prowls around like a roaring lion, looking
for someone to devour. If we run away from the church fellowship, we become an
easy target for the devil. Commit yourself to the fellowship and stick close to
your brothers and sisters.
5.
Spend time with your family.
Even if you don't have a great history with a family member,
chances are they will take you up on an invitation. You can share friends and
meet new people together. This will help diminish that awkward feeling of being
alone in public. Don't allow yourself to wallow. Instead of persistently
dwelling on how alone you feel, do anything to get your mind off it.
6.
Do Charitable work.
Many times it isn't the partner or friend you are missing, but the
activities and hobbies you shared. Take yourself out for a date. For example,
if you would have gone out to dinner or to a movie on a date, then take
yourself out to a movie or to a nice restaurant. Don't hold yourself back. It
is not strange to be by yourself and out doing things!
7.
Have a pleasant presence.
Draw people toward yourself by providing enjoyable company. Be
complimentary rather than critical. For a casual comment, don't nitpick other
people's clothes, habits or hair. They don't need to be reminded they have a
small stain on their shirt when they can't do anything about it. They do need
to hear that you think their sweater is cool or you read their article. Don't
make a big deal of it, but just casually mention it when you like something.
This is one of the best ice-breakers around and it builds trust steadily over
time as people come to understand that you won't criticize them.
Loneliness is a serious problem that impacts everyone at different
times. We all have a deep longing for sincere, close relationships with other
people because God created us that way. It is natural to desire meaningful
relationships with others. Don’t feel that you are the only one that deals with
this issue—even Adam in the Garden of Eden needed another person to be with
him. In order to overcome loneliness, we need to cultivate a closer
relationship with God, who will always be our best friend. Friendship with God
is like a massive rock in our social lives. When we stand on that rock, we are
socially and emotionally secure. That foundation allows us to relate to others
with confidence, not with desperation. As we become closer to God, the
Holy Spirit will also develop us into better friends to others.
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